But I got into an argument with some guy yesterday about my parenting. He kept saying that by me being a single mother and not having a man, my son is suffering and will grow up girly, get picked on in school, or be gay.
This really pissed me off. To me, I’m a lot stronger than most single mothers. I want my son to have stable relationships in life. So since i don’t have a serious relationship with any man, i don’t bring any around my child. Other women bring any fling around their kid, and i think it’s selfish and unhealthy for the child to have people yanked in and out of their life.
I told this guy that sexuality isn’t a choice, therefore cannot be influenced. And if my son turns out to like boys, then so what. But then the dude argued that I’m practically making the choice for my son by raising him alone.
Now, what i said was true. If my son were gay, I’d support him and love him all the same. My brother and i are and always were extremely close, and he’s gay.
But i feel like a hypocrite. It wouldn’t bother me if he were gay, but at the same time, I’d prefer it if he were straight. I can’t help it and it makes me feel bad.. I’d just rather him like girls, but if he likes boys, so what.
But now I’m starting to worry if me raising my son alone really will make him grow up differently than if he had a man around. Please don’t bash me or give me hate, I’m just wondering about your opinions.. Will a male being brought up in a strictly female environment suffer any or be more likely to be feminine as he grows?